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Dining with an officer.

Postby tomvet » 06 May 2017 18:47

I was reading elsewhere about p&o charging to dine with an officer, the thread continued to discuss current and possible future 'crazy' products / sevice on offer for a charge.

What stands out for me is that P&O and its officers must have some opinion of themselves to even think folk would pay money for the privlidge of dining with them!

OK! The officers are responsible persons, with responsible jobs, with (I am sure) the some job pressures / stresses but they are well rewarded for doing the job or following the career path they chose to follow. They deserve respect and I am thankful for what they do (as I am thankful to the cabin stewards and the waiters) but I certainly don't have them on a pedestal and I certainly would not partake not to mention pay to partake in anything to massage and ego. I believe there is a certain element of ego massaging expected on the officers part, why else would they agree to partake.

I also think the genre of person that think its big stuff to dine with an officer are the same genre of persons that like to have a whiskey named after them!!!! In Ireland we have a term that describes it 'full of bu//5h!+'.
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Re: Dining with an officer.

Postby khkate » 06 May 2017 20:06

Reading your post prompted me to look something up. With Saga, if one ever gets to have cruised 1000 nights, one of the "perks" is to have dinner with the captain or a senior office and a special menu of your devising. You also get a free cocktail party for 16 guests of your choice - and again this would included the captain or any member of the crew that you wished. My thought for that would be, rather than choosing the captain or a senio officer, would be to select one of the less-recognised (but equally valuable) crew, like a cabin steward to show my appreciation. However, I doubt, we will ever reach that elevated status, so my theory and thoughts will never be put to the test.

Like you, I don't think I would pay to dine with any of the senior officers or the captain. I know there are some people who get dreadfully upset if they are not invited to the captains table at least once per cruise - and I think they only go for the unlimited quantities of wine. We have done it once and enjoyed it, but it wouon't worry me if we don't do it again. Its either the officers having an inflated ego - or more likely, the cruise line looking for more ways to extract cash from their passengers!
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Re: Dining with an officer.

Postby Eleanor » 12 May 2017 09:05

One of our best cruising experiences was on Seabourn. On our first night we were invited on a hosted table which we've never had before, so we thought well, give it a go.
We were hosted by two of the ship's singers and it was great fun; if we ever showed up at the night club they'd do their spot then get us up to dance. Even my curmugeonly other half was charmed by them enough to do his dad dancing. But pay to dine with an officer, no thanks!
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Re: Dining with an officer.

Postby Carwalsick » 12 May 2017 11:25

We are well short of 1000 nights with Saga and have dined at the captain's table about five times and other senior officers many more. Most interesting, on our last cruise, was having the Captain join us, and others, for informal lunch and breakfast. We would certainly never pay or bid for the opportunity.

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Postby judgegeoff » 12 May 2017 13:11

We have only dined once with the (Staff) Captain and were very surprised to be selected. We were having breakfast with our two travelling companions (and ex. colleague and his wife) when we were approached by the Maitre 'd who asked us if we would like to dine with the Staff Captain that evening. We were very surprised as we were on an American Ship, the "Adventure of the Seas", in American waters, the vast majority of passengers were American and it was Thursday the 27th November 2011 - American Thanksgiving Day.

We had to meet in one of the bars where we were met by the Environmental Officer and the Assistant Cruise Director who would also be dining with us. They introduced us to the other guests who were two other British couples. After couple of drinks we were escorted to the Captain's table in the Main Dining Room where we awaited the arrival of the Staff Captain. He came down a flight of steps and, after being introduced to us all, we settled down to a very nice and special meal.

I remember that the lady sat next to me did not look very happy, hardly spoke a word and did not touch a single bite of the lovely food that was served to us. We later found out that she had spent all day on a Caribbean beach and was very badly burnt! But I often wonder why four British couples were chosen to dine with the Staff Captain on such a special (American) day.

But would I pay to eat at the Captain's table? - No, it was an interesting and enjoyable experience, but then most of our cruise dinners are.

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Re: Dining with an officer.

Postby Camela » 12 May 2017 17:32

They knew were a judge Geoff!!
We have been invited to dine with Captain on Silversea, not that we are in the top tier by any means but cruise was half full so I think they went for repeat cruisers and we were with friends who have 500+ nights. Later in the cruise we joined the Staff Captain and of the two he was the most fun! On a subsequent one we were on the CD's table but had cruised with him 2 months before so I think that was the reason. Nice to do but NO wouldn't pay!
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Re: Dining with an officer.

Postby judgegeoff » 12 May 2017 18:56

Camela wrote:They knew were a judge Geoff!!
We have been invited to dine with Captain on Silversea, not that we are in the top tier by any means but cruise was half full so I think they went for repeat cruisers and we were with friends who have 500+ nights. Later in the cruise we joined the Staff Captain and of the two he was the most fun! On a subsequent one we were on the CD's table but had cruised with him 2 months before so I think that was the reason. Nice to do but NO wouldn't pay!


Sorry to say I was never a judge Camela! I was an Electrical Engineer and became a Project Manager in the Nuclear Power Station Industry until I took early retirement in 1996. "Judge" was my nickname, partly (I think) as a very loose reference to 'Hanging Judge Jeffreys' and partly as part of my job was assessing and 'judging' Contactor's claims for additional payments at the end of contracts.

If I had been a judge I doubt that I would have mostly cruised in inside cabins!!! :D
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Postby Stan Deasy » 16 May 2017 10:47

Having just returned from a P&O Cruise (no names no pack drill ;) ) I feel qualified to make a comment. We were surprised to find ourselves allocated to a table of 8 ,on freedom dining , which was hosted by one of the officers from the engineering dept. I somehow assumed that he was a fairly senior rank ,by his demeanour, and after a the table had settled down ,he made the obligatory enquiries regarding our status retirement/work history lives. He then tried to dominate the conversation ,softened by the free wine treat . I made the mistake of asking him a question on the engine /propulsion system . His reply was long and (to me) quite tedious/boring/lengthy ,and I regretted asking the same question.
I later found out from the crew photo gallery, that he was a third assistant engineering officer. I am firmly of the opinion that there are many , many passengers who have much more interesting life experiences to share ,than most crew members. One of the great joys of cruising , is the wealth of experiences of the generally more mature fellow cruisers. Would I pay to dine with a crew member? No way. . Selective Stan.
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Postby Dave » 16 May 2017 11:12

tomvet wrote:I was reading elsewhere about p&o charging to dine with an officer, the thread continued to discuss current and possible future 'crazy' products / sevice on offer for a charge.

What stands out for me is that P&O and its officers must have some opinion of themselves to even think folk would pay money for the privlidge of dining with them!

OK! The officers are responsible persons, with responsible jobs, with (I am sure) the some job pressures / stresses but they are well rewarded for doing the job or following the career path they chose to follow. They deserve respect and I am thankful for what they do (as I am thankful to the cabin stewards and the waiters) but I certainly don't have them on a pedestal and I certainly would not partake not to mention pay to partake in anything to massage and ego. I believe there is a certain element of ego massaging expected on the officers part, why else would they agree to partake.

I also think the genre of person that think its big stuff to dine with an officer are the same genre of persons that like to have a whiskey named after them!!!! In Ireland we have a term that describes it 'full of bu//5h!+'.

I'm with you 100% on this Tom (as I so often am... ;) ), and I think you've summed up my feeling exactly. If I were to pay to dine (talk) with someone I'd be saying that I'm inferior to them (which is actually highly unlikely!) because they'll only talk to me if I pay them for the privilege.

If this kind of thing is really happening then it's another thing I dislike about cruising.

By the way, in getting on for 30 cruises we've never once been invited to dine with an officer (let alone the Captain). My daughters did their first cruise when they were in their early 20s and were invited to dine at the Captain's table on the very first evening. Being young, female and attractive seems to work...
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Postby tomvet » 16 May 2017 19:02

Dave wrote: Being young, female and attractive seems to work...


I wondered why I never got an invite either........................ Well I am not going to have gender reassignment surgery to get one! :D
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